Keywords: growth , life

Being raised as a girl child in most African homes is difficult and can really be overwhelming most of the times that you begin to wonder if there was a need to be born and sometimes because of how you are raised you question paternity. Growing up we have practically (maybe not all of us but a good number of us) been groomed for a person who we haven’t met,I mean the husband we haven’t met. Some of us who didn’t experience this growing up in our households experienced this in some other social settings . The school,work,religious gatherings etc if you aren’t been asked about getting married then you are being cautioned about a behavior that might prevent you from getting married . In their term “ who will marry you like this” There is so much pressure to be a better person but definitely not for yourself rather for the man who you’d turn out to be his wife and then you keep wondering is there anything I could be or do just for me. It is like you don’t exist. Personally I have many times simply hated that I came to be born a woman and worst of all Nigerian. Knowing that not just me have hard a bitter experience or my own fair share of this primitive school of thought our elders share in. I decided to have ask a couple of beautiful Nigerian young ladies to share their experiences or stories as regards this topic

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