an investment into my breasts that isn’t a reduction feels like a waste

Keywords: five things , writing , creative writing

an ill-fitting bra is not hard to spill out of. when you find your fit, a person or the preferred taste of your morning coffee, you don’t want to stray. the wire of my beloved bra came out like a family secret; so i had to carry six bras off the rack to a dressing room in hope that the support i needed would only cost me $11 and a quarterly trip to ross dress for less. but one spill and gaping cups and shifting band after another: i left with socks and hair products. i saved my tears for the parking lot.

I am a grown woman — 27 years old — and apparently I still have no idea how to ask someone not to touch me

Keywords: assertiveness , body rules , conflict , harrassment , people pleaser , physical touch , safety , sexual harrassment

Okay, so let’s rewind and explain. A while back I went to a new branch of my gym for the first time. I showed up for a 6am class and because the club was recently opened, there was only one other person in the class. The trainer was really friendly but one thing I didn’t enjoy: he kept touching me to show me the movements.


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I grew up with men in my family constantly viewing women as objects, I thought this was completely normal because it was normal. I was being catcalled at 12 by grown men. That was all I’ve ever know. Sometimes I feel as though I will have to put up with catalling and unwanted sexual advances from men for the rest of my life. I do believe some people will just never change and grasp common sense, and respect of others, and that is scary; but that is our reality as women.