What am I getting out of it this time?

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I am so inspired by this new step, this fresh start, taken in my mid-30s. Despite the late nights, white hairs and stress sleep, I am holding my own. But more than before, I hope, I am doing it for myself. I didn’t consider myself a feminist in my early 20s, but certainly do now. I want only better for both women and men than what’s on offer today. I want to make a difference again, a change. And I think that’s what school is always for, regardless of how or where you learn it: to try to be more yourself in a world that asks you to be the same.

https://catownerlivingabroad.com/2021/02/05/ladies

I want things to get better, allow young girls to be young girls and allow women to breathe and live life, there’s so much to what we can be, why are you limiting us?

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Being raised as a girl child in most African homes is difficult and can really be overwhelming most of the times that you begin to wonder if there was a need to be born and sometimes because of how you are raised you question paternity. Growing up we have practically (maybe not all of us but a good number of us) been groomed for a person who we haven’t met,I mean the husband we haven’t met. Some of us who didn’t experience this growing up in our households experienced this in some other social settings . The school,work,religious gatherings etc if you aren’t been asked about getting married then you are being cautioned about a behavior that might prevent you from getting married . In their term “ who will marry you like this” There is so much pressure to be a better person but definitely not for yourself rather for the man who you’d turn out to be his wife and then you keep wondering is there anything I could be or do just for me. It is like you don’t exist. Personally I have many times simply hated that I came to be born a woman and worst of all Nigerian. Knowing that not just me have hard a bitter experience or my own fair share of this primitive school of thought our elders share in. I decided to have ask a couple of beautiful Nigerian young ladies to share their experiences or stories as regards this topic

https://letruthspeak.wordpress.com/2021/01/21/what-they-didnt-tell-us-about-being-a-lady

It is a common practice amongst people to hide the fact that they are on their periods due to the taboo ridden nature which is associated with it across different religions and cultures

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Out of the 42 girls who replied to this question, 34 girls used words like ‘I am down’ or ‘it is that time of the month’ to convey to others they she was on period which 8 girls did not use any such statements.

https://streamsthevoiceofchange.com/2020/09/12/girls-experiences-with-periods-in-school

Being in this masculine state for prolonged periods tires out a woman, and vice versa a man will feel unwell and out-of-balance by resting in his feminine for too long

Why is there so much contempt for the strong man stereotype and the men who adhere to traditional roles of masculinity? Why are powerful men automatically depicted as all-toxic? Ascribing an attribute like “toxic” to one gender – isn’t that a vast generalisation? Isn’t that … sexism?

https://wisefem.com/2020/06/20/the-soft-male