WHY ARE BOYS TAUGHT TO VIEW US AS OBJECTS?

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I grew up with men in my family constantly viewing women as objects, I thought this was completely normal because it was normal. I was being catcalled at 12 by grown men. That was all I’ve ever know. Sometimes I feel as though I will have to put up with catalling and unwanted sexual advances from men for the rest of my life. I do believe some people will just never change and grasp common sense, and respect of others, and that is scary; but that is our reality as women.

https://bpdcantbreakme.wordpress.com/2021/04/25/we-are-not-outside-for-your-entertainment

I want things to get better, allow young girls to be young girls and allow women to breathe and live life, there’s so much to what we can be, why are you limiting us?

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Being raised as a girl child in most African homes is difficult and can really be overwhelming most of the times that you begin to wonder if there was a need to be born and sometimes because of how you are raised you question paternity. Growing up we have practically (maybe not all of us but a good number of us) been groomed for a person who we haven’t met,I mean the husband we haven’t met. Some of us who didn’t experience this growing up in our households experienced this in some other social settings . The school,work,religious gatherings etc if you aren’t been asked about getting married then you are being cautioned about a behavior that might prevent you from getting married . In their term “ who will marry you like this” There is so much pressure to be a better person but definitely not for yourself rather for the man who you’d turn out to be his wife and then you keep wondering is there anything I could be or do just for me. It is like you don’t exist. Personally I have many times simply hated that I came to be born a woman and worst of all Nigerian. Knowing that not just me have hard a bitter experience or my own fair share of this primitive school of thought our elders share in. I decided to have ask a couple of beautiful Nigerian young ladies to share their experiences or stories as regards this topic

https://letruthspeak.wordpress.com/2021/01/21/what-they-didnt-tell-us-about-being-a-lady

As adults recognise risk aversion they can work to overcome it

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We also need to help those younger than us; we need to praise difference, stop unfair criticism and constantly encourage girls to be themselves, to be unique, be risk taking. Because for every bump in the road they encounter they will develop the skill of resilience and with this their confidence will grow.

https://lookingontothemarshes.home.blog/2020/12/14/go-on-take-a-risk

It is a common practice amongst people to hide the fact that they are on their periods due to the taboo ridden nature which is associated with it across different religions and cultures

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Out of the 42 girls who replied to this question, 34 girls used words like ‘I am down’ or ‘it is that time of the month’ to convey to others they she was on period which 8 girls did not use any such statements.

https://streamsthevoiceofchange.com/2020/09/12/girls-experiences-with-periods-in-school