For women in the twenty-first century, a name is a problem that can never be neatly solved

Keywords: blog , essay , feminism , marriage , names , opinion piece , surname , women

Names are nothing and everything at the same time. They shape and steal identity, they are complex and unforgiving, they hold secrets and divide families. But they know nothing of the personalities of their users. A name cannot possibly define you […]. Names can cause sadness and joy, privilege and discrimination, and in ways, they will always be a burden to us.

https://snidesnakeponders.wordpress.com/2021/06/02/whats-in-a-name

I want things to get better, allow young girls to be young girls and allow women to breathe and live life, there’s so much to what we can be, why are you limiting us?

Keywords: growth , life

Being raised as a girl child in most African homes is difficult and can really be overwhelming most of the times that you begin to wonder if there was a need to be born and sometimes because of how you are raised you question paternity. Growing up we have practically (maybe not all of us but a good number of us) been groomed for a person who we haven’t met,I mean the husband we haven’t met. Some of us who didn’t experience this growing up in our households experienced this in some other social settings . The school,work,religious gatherings etc if you aren’t been asked about getting married then you are being cautioned about a behavior that might prevent you from getting married . In their term “ who will marry you like this” There is so much pressure to be a better person but definitely not for yourself rather for the man who you’d turn out to be his wife and then you keep wondering is there anything I could be or do just for me. It is like you don’t exist. Personally I have many times simply hated that I came to be born a woman and worst of all Nigerian. Knowing that not just me have hard a bitter experience or my own fair share of this primitive school of thought our elders share in. I decided to have ask a couple of beautiful Nigerian young ladies to share their experiences or stories as regards this topic

https://letruthspeak.wordpress.com/2021/01/21/what-they-didnt-tell-us-about-being-a-lady